“Kapag committed ka talaga, buong buhay mo ay ibibigay mo.”
This was the message Senator Alan Peter Cayetano shared during his CIA 365 series on Tuesday night, February 18, 2025, a daily vlog on Facebook where he imparts life lessons based on the Bible.
The senator emphasized the importance of placing God at the center of relationships, a principle he credits for the flourishing of his marriage with Taguig City Mayor Lani Cayetano.
Quoting John 15:13, he said, “No one has greater love than this: to lay down his life for his friends.”
“In relationships, there’s often a tug-of-war between what you want and what your partner wants. Pero walang mawawala kung itatanong natin kung ano ba ang gusto ng Diyos para sa atin. Kasi siya ang Maker at Creator, so alam niya ang gusto natin,” he explained.
Cayetano also shared how his pastor often helps them resolve conflicts by reminding them to prioritize God’s will. “When we argue, our pastor would say, ‘Can you be obedient to God? Kasi tatlo kayo sa relationship,’” he said.
He cautioned as well against applying permanent solutions to temporary problems. “Kung parating temporarily insane ang wife mo, baka hindi na siya ang problem, baka ikaw,” he said jokingly. “Magpasalamat ka your wife did not think of a permanent solution and got rid of you.”
Cayetano highlighted the importance of daily commitment, referencing the Lord’s Prayer: “Give us this day our daily bread.” He explained that this verse not only refers to physical needs but also to daily reliance on God.
“Communication has to be constant and commitment has to be renewed daily… Start every morning with praying, reflecting on God’s goodness before social media or whatever the world teaches us,” he said.
The senator connected these lessons to his legislative work, sharing that his study of marriage has informed his approach to bills on annulment, divorce, and comprehensive sex education.
He said during his research, he came across a compelling explanation of why happiness should not be the primary goal of marriage.
“Ang ganda ng sinabi ng author na hindi mo mahahanap ang happiness kung iyon unang goal mo sa marriage. Baliktad, kasi may special purpose si God for marriage,” he said.
“Kung gagampanan niyo pareho ng spouse niyo ang purpose ni Lord sa marriage, you will be happy. Happiness is a result of that. Hindi siya y’ung una mong hahanapin,” he concluded.
